Menty B at an Orgy

Because nonmonogamy isn’t the norm within American culture, we create our own norms within our subculture. I think that’s one of the most beautiful things about going against a cultural norm– creating your own.

One time, I was having some big emotions right before an orgy, and I found myself crying on my bed a few minutes before I had originally planned to leave. One of my friends texted me and asked if I was coming, and I replied that I probably wasn’t going to make it because I was crying. My friend told me to come over to her place and get ready with her. I said I didn’t want to kill her vibe, and she said she wanted to support me. cue more crying from feeling so loved I went to her place to get ready.

A few other friends texted me and asked if I was coming, and I gave similar responses regarding my emotional state and not wanting to kill the vibe at the party. They all replied that they wanted me there, crying or not. cue even more crying I was touched. I felt so accepted and unconditionally loved by my friends and partners. I went to the orgy, and I held it together for about an hour before I started to cry again. My friends surrounded me, held me, and assured me that they were still glad I was there. They affirmed my feelings and said it was meaningful for them to see that healthy happy people like me also have big negative emotions. Social media makes a lot of us appear to be super happy most of the time, and it’s important to see that big emotions still happen, even in happy, healthy lives.